That hard headed challenge

What to do. What to do.Miss Jordan has a hard head. She's strong willed. She's a beast in a good and bad way.But I'll be honest. I'm a bit stumped with this young lady. In the last year, she's lost the fear of the adults who are trying to help lead her and teach her. And it's driving me a little batty.All that confidence has morphed into a struggle for me as a parent. I need to her to be respectful. I need her to recognize her impact on others. She just doesn't see it. When she chooses to ignore a teacher's rules, she doesn't even understand it's disrespectful.ACK!So, my new challenge is to find a way to help Jordan be more introspective. It was something I personally gained a lot as a kid since I moved a lot. Each time I moved, I looked inside myself and asked what lessons I learned as a person. How did I affect people? Was I kind? What can I do better?Yeah. She's almost nine. But I hang out with Jordan a lot. She's mature enough to be able to understand her impact. I need her to use her strengths for more good. We work hard together to do good for Camp No Limits, but I hope Jordan can do good to adults and peers. She's often more concerned about others making bad choices and completely doesn't notice the errors she's making at the same time.This parenting thing is so tricky.I don't want to just punish Jordan. I want her to learn. I want her to grow. Any ideas are welcome.