Being Your Child's Advocate

NOTE: Born Just Right is growing to offer additional perspective and support to parents of special needs kids. If you’re interested, check out this post._______________________Remember the meeting I talked about last week? Where I walked out feeling like the worst mother in the world? I also left that meeting feeling hopeless. Because when I asked what our options were, I was told that we had none. We could take what the school district offered or forgo public assistance and do private tutoring. I knew then that I could never go unprepared again.Like many women, my tendency is to to be polite and deferring. I leave the "bitch hat" off. But I realized that when it come to my kids I am going to have to put my bitch hat on at all times.  I am still polite but now I push back when I don't like the answers. I go into every meeting armed with a list of questions and idea of what I think is best for my child. My husband and I are careful to discuss before hand what we think is the best plan so we are able to present a united front.We are blessed to live in a city with a wonderful school district filled with fantastic educators who I truly feel care about our children and want the best for them.  But wanting what is best for them is not their job. Their job is to think of everyone in the classroom, of budgeting, of what they are legally required to do. And that's okay.  I approach each event like a partnership, but I also know that my husband and I are the ones who have to represent our kids until they are able to.So now I push back when therapists show up late. I speak up when things aren't working. When someone tells me no, I work a way to yes. I reach out to organizations that can give me advice. I research what options are available. I spend time online seeking out new ideas and therapies. I make it my job to be their advocate, even if I have to ruffle a few feathers to do it.