A hard-headed update

My mom visited this past week and it was SO great to have her in town. It's also so interesting to have her around to watch our household dynamics from an "outsider" perspective but since she isn't really an outsider, she's able to actually tell me what she sees.You know, she noticed Jordan is growing up a bit. Her sometimes rude, hard headedness is still there... But she's starting to be a little more introspective and able to apologize when she takes things into the wrong direction. That is my goal as I try to help guide her as she grows.My mom and I had a good conversation about the way Jordan reacts to criticism. So often, when Jordan doesn't understand something, she tends to turn on her "fight mode" before she's ready to turn on her "learn mode." It's aggravating. But talking it through with my mom, I really think this is because Jordan has needed be a little more aggressive to stand up for herself at times. And because she's so good at standing up for herself, she's not so good at criticism or difficult moments where she needs to stop, think and process. She fights before she thinks.I'll keep helping her with this... But as I process her reactions, hopefully I'll be able to help her "see" how her actions affect others and prevent her from learning and sometime even having fun.